My brother and sisters and I have plenty of reasons to be angry. We grew up in back-woods poverty with parents who were addicted to drugs and alcohol, and there was a lot of physical and verbal abuse in our home. We lived in a tent for several years, then a towing-trailer, then when we put add-ons onto that to turn it into what we called “the shack.” We went without running water, electricity, new clothes, medical care, or dependable transportation for a good portion of our childhoods. When our violent father finally got put behind bars, our mother died of alcohol poisoning just a few months later. She passed away just before the divorce could go through, so, legally, when our father got out less than a year later he inherited all of her material possessions and us kids were left with nothing but each other and a restraining order to protect ourselves from him.
(*Whew!* Try reading that 5 times fast!)
I’m telling you this short-version of my growing-up sob story not so you will pity me in any way, but so I can share with you the possibility of over-coming the sucky situations that go beyond our control. I could reminisce on the co-workers who saw my mother’s black eyes but did nothing about it and conclude that the world is a terrible place not worth salvaging. But I don’t.
It’s too easy of a trap to play the victim and I won’t fall for it.
I am not sad.
I am happy.
I am not angry.
I am hopeful.
I do not feel rejected.
I am bursting with motivation.
I do not think about how unfair life is.
I think about how I can make life better.
I do not hate….
But I am always learning.
I am not depressed.
I am energized.
Today is better than yesterday, and I am looking forward to tomorrow while I enjoy it.
I work hard, and give hard, and love even harder.
I step back, see the big picture, and smile.
No matter who your parents were, where you were born, or what you’ve been unfairly saddled with, you don’t have to be the angry victim. Choose to be a big-picture person instead.
I hope you inspire to go beyond what you’ve been given, and that you recognize the special talents that only you can share with the world. I hope you take that talent and use it to move forward. We all have reasons to be angry, but we also have so many more reasons to be glad. We just have to choose to see it that way.